why am i alone? September 9, 2008
Posted by realove in Fears, Feelings, Life, Love, Me, Pain, Personal, Relationships, Sadness, Thoughts.trackback
why am i alone? i’m a very normal girl. i’m better than the average girl actually, if u dont mind me saying. i’m not dat beautiful, but i’m not bad, and i dont look typical. i’m a doctor. i have a good heart, not the best heart but a good heart. i’m charming when i’m in the mood. i have a sense f humour… i can carry on conversations with anyone, from a school kid to an old man. and yet, i’m alone. why is this? why isit that bitches have boyfriends? the plainest quitest plain jane has a boyfriend, unenducated and unemployed women have boyfrens but not me? even the few potential guys in my life have become non-p0tential now. Guy 1 aka shy guy was initially half interested in me, but i think he found someone less lively now. Guy 2, had a crush on me for years wen i was with my bf, now has come back and working in the same department with me, and he’s not interested in even keeping our frenship going anymore. so depressed. especially about guy2. i was really waiting for him to come back here and thinking about the possibility of hooking up. we’ve been frens for 7 years! and i trust him. i know he’s a good guy with a good heart and a damn good discipline. but now when i’m showing interest in him, he doesnt even realize. coz he has someone else in his heart already. fuck it man. my life is pathetic.
Who are you? Where are you from?
Two thoughts…no three..no four, I will stop at four. lol!
Don’t date where you work, it is more hassle than it is worth when the realtionship goes south.
Rhetorical perhaps…are you makng yourself availble to be discovered? If you live a hidden life away from your career waiting for someone to stumble into it, it may be a long wait.
Do you really want a realtionship? Some people say they do, but everything they do in their day to day shows they do not.
One less obvious…you mentioned a bf. Maybe you are not really ready?
I just saw “why am I alone” and I had to see what this is all about… I’m the same pretty much, I can’t stand being alone and if I can help it will always be in a relationship with someone… There are 2 theories, 1) Don’t look for a relationship, let it come naturally. By looking for a relationship you are overlooking possible opportunities that may arise and 2) Look for a relationship, but visualise EXACTLY what it is you want. Imagine going home to the guy of your dreams, what does he look like, what does he do. Imagine you’ve got him already and that you two are happy together. Try to stop being miserable, misery isn’t attractive. Confidence is! Don’t act desperate. Don’t throw yourself at the first person who comes along, you deserve better. You’re 25, you’re definitely ready!
at least you had a penitential person. i have lived my whole like wishing just one person would like me enough, but they never do… I’m just the extra wheel at every party and get together, every girl i ever show an interest in goes out with someone else or doesn’t even notice me… i don’t think I’m ugly but i guess the last shred of self esteem i had left just flew off into the distance. i feel doomed forever stuck on the bumper of any car i decide to hop on….
that one guy,
i understand how u feel… i’ve been through that and when i’m down, i feel that way still… but i decided to just be true to myself. just be yourself. dont try too hard. and try faking confidence. confidence attracts people. initially it will be fake but it will become real bit by bit… i know i’m not in the position to advise u… anyway hope wat i said helps… i emphatize…
Cause you can’t spell very well for a doctor. Sorry that was rude, I’m alone, but now I know why. hehe.
dat was irritating…ya… now we all know why you’re alone…
I’m in a great relationship now but I was alone for 8 years. 20-28. Prime of my life and I spent it alone. Well prime sexually speaking. I can’t tell you that I did anything special other than to be myself. We were introduced by a mutual friend. We hit it off immediately with common interests. The friendship turned into friends with benefits and finally into boyfriends. I took it slow and didn’t try to force anything. It worked for me. Not sure why but it did. I wouldn’t look too deeply at why you’re not in a relationship. So of the best times I’ve had have been when I wasn’t with someone. Frees me up to just be myself. No group identity just a self identity.
i am alone myself….mainly because its my fault every time i had an opertunity to be loved i blew it. some times to change our outcomes we must change ourselves…..maybe i should take my own advice…
I feel you already had sombody in your life then why did he left you alone . Why that relationship came to an end.May be that you were not ready to carry it any more but , the trust you lost with each other may not come back to you for other guy. You first decide what exactly u want and then start your life with new approach & leaving behind your past. Some times guys not come back to previous relationship because of their thinking that this is not what they wanted in life.
Just read it and its same wid me! dont know why- but yes, I have to accept I am alone. – very , in fact.
I am alone too, obviously. I am 24 and i like to think i’m quite pretty, intelligent, talented, have a huge heart etc. (not stuck up either if that’s what you’re thinking, don’t like talking about myself
. But I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m pretty quiet but I don’t let that hold me back. It’s just that all the guys I like, (which isn’t many!), never seem to like me back, and the ones I don’t have an interest in, do! Should I just settle for the ones who won’t make me happy, and stop being so choosy? The ones I do like, aren’t drop dead georgous or anything, just nice, sweet, attractive, intelligent, quiet guys, who are on the same wavelength as me. Maybe it’s because they’re already taken? What should I do?? I’m usually pretty positive, but lately…it’s kinda hard 
fickle?
Um no I’m not ‘fickle’. Are you? Thanks for making me feel better, your support and helpful comment is appreciated
I’m not sure .Being shy is not helpful , I know that now .
I only spew words when I’m drunk. Such a crutch but it’s how it works
for me. I’m so alone also. It seems the only time ppl interact w/ me is when they need something from me . I really can’t remember the last
time I was Happy . I’d been in counseling for yrs. It didn’t help. They
said it was all my illusion. I’m not sure . But like you , I’d love to be loved and have a decent convo and such . The whole idea is beyond me .
It’s like I’d built my own prison, not by design, by conditioning.
I know how you feel . Best of luck , let me know if you figure it out .
yes we all have the same story because we couldnt play the hard to get type. as for me i got dumped over and over and the only woman who want to be my lover is a married woman who will not devoce the husband and still wants to be with me.. yes life is not fair.i dont want to be alone so now im going out with a married man .but we lonely guys can use this page to help each other…im a guy 35 from ghana my email kwamepost@gmail.com
lets help our selfs we are all lonely … im 35 male from ghana.. am intrested in meeting any nice lady from around the world …my e-mail kwamepost@gmail.com